How sure are you that you’re pleasuring the woman you’re with? Here’s a list of what the woman in your life may be craving in the bedroom.
Here’s a fact that most men may not be aware of: women are highly se.xual beings, so se.xual that they enjoy s3x as much as men do. They too have strong s3xual desires like men. What’s more surprising is that these desires are not always based on emotions or driven by intimacy.
In the book What Do Women Want? Adventures in the Science of Female Desire by Daniel Bergner, the author even went as far as suggesting that women’s intense s3xual cravings actually make them have a greater tendency to be more polygamous than men.
However, the problem here is, despite greater social acceptance when it comes to sensuality and se.xual empowerment, many women still find it hard to talk to their partners openly about s3x. And that’s because women are not culturally programmed to talk without hesitation about se3x.
Chances are, they’d be overcome with shame to tell their partners what they want in bed. If they do talk about se3x, they would most likely feel guilty about it later on, thanks to society constantly telling them that anything remotely connected to se33x is shameful.
Susan Carrell, the writer behind Escaping Toxic Guilt, says that women always feel guilt or shame, because they have always been taught that “being good is the most important thing.” So for the fear of being perceived as “dirty,” “cheap,” or “not good enough for a long-term relationship,” women would rather keep their s3xual thoughts and desires to themselves.
They would just trust their partners to know by intuition what they want in bed, or they would drop “hints,” which are not always effective as they think. And here’s why: Women can master the art of faking an orgasm. It’s easy to fake the ooohsand ahhhs in bed. The only way to truly know if they are happy with what you do with them and for them is through asking.
The secret se3x requests from women
Women will most likely not tell you what they want or what they think of your performance in bed. So here’s a list of what women truly want from their partners when it comes to s3ex, but are too ashamed to ask from them. These requests come from real women who, like you, acknowledge the fact that great s*x is vital to a healthy, lasting relationship.
#1 “Longer please.” She’s not referring to the length of your manh0od. She’s talking about the act of foreplay. According to the Journal of S*x Research, women and men both want foreplay to last for least 18 minutes. Make sure to cover all bases, from head to toe. More foreplay time also leads to better orgasms, so take your time.
#2 “I want it rough, sometimes.” Women are not as delicate as you think. A little bit of roughness is sexy. Gently pull on her long locks as you take her from behind. You may also try a bit of spanking. Or how about tearing her lingerie apart in the hallway, as you prepare to do stand-up sex? If you do this, just make sure to take her lingerie shopping again.